As parents, we often think that a new toy can replace spending time with children. If this happens often, it can lead to various mental problems. Continue reading to learn more about how you can avoid giving your child too many gifts and the consequences.
Gifts vs. common quality
Of course, the love you feel for your child is huge and can sometimes make you think that your child deserves all the toys in the world. However, a shared quality time is the best gift you can give your child.
If you’re really busy and don’t have much time to spend with your child, you’re more likely to end up pampering him with stuff. The most common way to find a child to be pampered in this way is for the child to ask for a new toy every time you go to the store.
Does this sound familiar? Do you often buy gifts and toys for your children?
Pampered children are not a new problem and have become more common during the 21st century. Even if you are really busy, it is best to be systematic and set aside time to spend with your child. It is the best way to avoid raising pampered children and help the child mature properly.
What exactly does “pampering” mean?
“Pampering” refers to pampering that goes beyond children. It is characterized by the fact that the child is often given too many gifts or toys. Pampered children also realize early on that they can get everything they want and learn to manipulate their parents to give them what they want.
Being pampered can also be a sign that children are not spending enough quality time with their parents. Believe it or not, most children would rather spend time with their parents instead of a new toy or gift. Most often, pampered children are easy to notice because they are constantly complaining.
However, don’t worry! You can easily fix this by always setting certain standards or goals for receiving gifts. For example, a new toy can be obtained when a child receives good grades.
How do I know my child is being pampered?
While a common sign of a pampered child is the great swaying of gifts or toys, there are other signs as well, including:
- Low tolerance or frustration
- Bad imagination
- Justice or pickiness
- The child is a materialist and a consumer
Of course, children are also affected by their friends and classmates. If a classmate or friend has a new toy, your child will probably want one too.
In dealing with such situations, it is best to state that all families are different and set some rules for receiving gifts.
Consequences of owning too many toys
Being pampered has consequences for the child and the people around him. Some of these consequences are:
- Unnecessary financial costs
- Isolation from parents
- Difficulty expressing oneself in both the long and short term
- Development of potential personality problems
- Intolerance and frustration
- Lack or lack of recognition of the value of people and things
What can parents do to remedy a situation where a child receives too many gifts?
Spend quality time with your child
The role of a parent is to help children learn and grow in a healthy environment. So it is important to spend time with your child every day doing different activities or playing games. It helps the child realize that the best gift is quality time spent with people.
Another good idea is to surprise your child by going outside to his or her favorite restaurant or park.
Teach the value of money
The best way to teach your child the value of every gift you give is to help him or her understand how you were able to buy it. When he realizes that you go to work to be able to buy gifts and how much each toy costs, he starts to see things differently.
This not only encourages her to look for jobs as a parent, but also helps her become more mature.
Teach him the rule of four
One tip is to use the four rules when giving a gift. It consists of giving a gift according to these four categories:
- Something a child can use or carry with them
- Something a child really wants
- Something a child really needs
For example, a kickboard he can take with him, a new book about his favorite genre, markers for a drawing or project, or something a child has been asking for for months would fit this rule. It also helps prevent the build-up of toys that your child will stop playing with just a week after receiving them.
Help your child learn to play without toys
The club is the best gift for your child! Merely devoting an hour to playing together can help a spoiled child avoid a problem and improve family relationships.
When you’re really busy, you can ask your child to sit next to you and sing, read, or paint. Such activities do not require toys and if you need silence, reading and painting are good options.
Remember, the greatest gift is love
Van Gogh said, “What is done with love is well done!”.
Even if you have a lot of work to do, make sure you take the time to listen to the children, talk to them, and play. It’s also a great way for you both to relax and feel comfortable telling each other about everything.
You can avoid raising pampered children by spending more time with them. You can do activities together at home, go to the movies or the park. Even if you are busy with work, it is important to remember to spend time with children on a daily basis.
I hope this article has helped you reflect on things. Start appreciating more time with loved ones rather than material things. In order for your child to learn this from you, you need to do the same and teach your child through your own actions.