How often is it heard in the phrase “time to heal wounds”? Whenever you go through, say, a broken relationship or some other experience that really breaks you, it’s a period of time that requires overcoming difficulties.
However, are you doing this in the best possible way? Or do you let “destiny” take responsibility for all of your pain healing? It is important to allow time to heal, but time will not heal anything if you do not work for your healing yourself.
So the responsibility for your own healing lies with you, not with time. This time, we will talk in more detail about overcoming and healing difficulties, as well as the role of time in this process.
The pain takes its own time to leave
It would be unreasonable to think that you can solve a major problem or heal your wound in just a short and defined amount of time. Life is not like that, and you can’t predict how long this time required for “wound healing” will be.
Because of all this, there is one thing you should never do when you are in trouble. This is living in the past and leaving your wound open for the rest of your life. This will only allow your suffering to continue, so the first thing you should definitely do is close the wound, and then it should be given time to heal.
There may be a lot of people around you who offer different ways for you to avoid thinking about the situation. They offer to try new things, go out with friends… Maybe all of these are pretty good suggestions, but you shouldn’t resort to them when looking for a solution to your situation.
If you avoid facing things, you will only get a temporary patch, and sooner or later your pain will come back again.
Give your pain time. Maybe it takes a month, maybe more than a month, or maybe you need a whole year to experience your pain. It all depends on what the source of your pain is.
Don’t rush with your pain. Everything will be OK again, and as you heal, you will be aware of it. You will then be able to look at your scar without arousing great emotions in you.
Don’t wait passively, take control of the situation
While time is required, there is another necessary thing: you don’t just have to wait in your place and think about the situation resolving over time. Many still leave their problems to “fate” or assume that time will come to heal their wounds.
Life doesn’t go that way. You need to take over your own life and work for the healing process to happen. Time alone cannot accomplish this – it does not have the power to be fully responsible for what happens to you. You yourself must also do your job.
How, then, can a person take over his life? What can you do in a difficult situation? Here are some very important tips to help you take control of your own life.
Let go of your past
The past exists because it would remind you of the experiences you learned and went through, but the past is still gone.
Now is the time to stop living in the past. You have to let go of it and move on. So focus on the present moment, because that is what matters.
You may be strong, but sometimes you need help. So rely on people you can trust to help you move forward and get new perspectives.
Never be ashamed that you need help, as there are a lot of people who are ready to give you the support you need.
You need to open your mind and see life in the light of new optimism. If you have gone through very difficult times, this does not mean that the world will end.
You can get over everything sooner or later, so smile and keep going. Life is beautiful, so live it!
Forgive others, but also yourself
There is one thing that is harder than forgiving others, and that is forgiving oneself. Whether you agree with this or not, this is a necessary part of overcoming the difficulties. Only in this way can you leave the past behind and move forward.
Don’t live with bitterness with you, as your wound will remain open for the rest of your life
Have you ever left something to time when the responsibility would actually have been yours? Pain is something you shouldn’t just leave over time to heal, and this is something you should learn. Time can help, of course, this is absolutely true, but it cannot be a full healer.
Be brave and take control of the situation. Life is beautiful, although at the moment you may not see it that way. Live and be happy, for you deserve it.