Respect in a relationship or any other human relationship is not a matter of course. It must be practiced every day, and both parties, who understand that love is above all encouraging each other, must cherish it out of their genuine desire.
It’s funny that when it comes to respect, everyone knows how to define it, but few know how to actually implement it in their own lives.
The biggest problem with respect is that we all want it, but we forget to show it to the people close to us. Just like we would think, ” Respect me first, I’ll respect you.” If we think about it in terms of a relationship, the problem is even more complicated.
We often take respect for granted. We simply assume that “ people who love me also respect me”. However, this can lead to misunderstandings.
Respect in a relationship
Respect between two people doesn’t just mean not hurting the other. It is a psychological and mental thing whose ultimate goal is much deeper. We want the kind of respect where we are cared for, we are allowed to grow, and where the parties in the relationship are allies of each other.
Today, we would like to invite you to reflect on this topic in more depth.
1. Demonstration of respect must have a purpose
We live in a world where words sell and people share the wonderful side of their wonderful relationship on social media. In reality, however, they do not live that way. The things we see on social media are not reality.
Kindness, like respect, is worthless unless there is a clear purpose for showing and realizing it.
The same goes for relationships. Love alone is not enough for a relationship to flourish or even succeed. It needs a lot more dimensions that together give the relationship its full meaning.
A good relationship is to show respect every day by caring for each other. It is about showing interest in the other and actively listening to him, reciprocity and anticipating the needs of the other.
It is spiritual nourishment.
2. Empathy: the basic pillar
No one can truly respect another if he or she lacks a genuine, intuitive, and sincere ability to empathize.
Basically, the human brain is an organ that has evolved through socialization, interaction, and human bonds. This allows our species to survive in groups.
Empathy and the mirror neurons that give it up make it possible to see another person as part of oneself. We understand what our partner feels without him having to tell us in words.
This is a basic feature of showing respect. It means you need to know what to do, say and not say to take care of another person so important to you.
3. It is important to know your partner in all situations
Some people say they know their partner as well as themselves, when in reality they are just projecting their own preferences and needs into their partner.
Let’s make one thing clear: to build a happy and healthy relationship, you and your partner don’t have to be exactly alike.
Respecting your partner’s passions, preferences, and beliefs is essential. So is knowing who your partner is, what he or she doesn’t like, what makes him or her uncomfortable, and what are the little things that make up his or her personality and identity.
Without this knowledge, there is also no respect. This should be remembered. Otherwise, and almost without ourselves realizing it, we end up sabotaging our love thinking that certain things in him are not important. We violate the needs of another that we have “categorized” as irrelevant, disappointing our loved one.
When was the last time you thanked your partner for something?
All it takes is just “ thank you for being you”, “thank you for always being by my side” or “ thank you for making me happy”. It’s about showing respect by giving recognition to another, appreciating him, and showing him how important he is to you.
Humbly demonstrated gratitude strengthens any bond, especially a relationship.
5. The importance of small things
Respect is not shown by individual big deeds. The happiest and most enduring relationships are those that pay attention to the smallest details. The little things show how respect is wise, intuitive, and really emphasizes the important things.
At the same time, it must be remembered that these little things are shared through good communication. At this point we should always remember:
- Use words of thanks.
- Communicate without shouting and pay attention to tone of voice.
- Utilizes relative communication: I know how you feel and respect it; tell me how i can help.
Make these things a part of your relationship by incorporating them into your daily life.